A Letter to Young Guns Starting to Learn Pickup

A letter from my older self to my younger self as a means of sticking a boot in my younger ass to move me forward. I just didn't do the work back then, and I regret that now looking back. I didn't maximize myself if I look back at those days honestly. Regrets suck I'm …

10 Things a Dom Needs

Found this waaay back in my notes from Oct of 2017, the post came from an online source that I didn't note at the time. ETA: the link to the original has been found, trying to get in touch with the author for approval to repost this here in its original unedited format. This post …

The LARPing submissive

I had this concept pop into my head last night, and I liked the way it worked out. I wanted to dump it out as a quick hitter I've been trying to come up with a way to vet a submissive. Coaching a young man earlier this morning who reached out saying he wanted a …

Have you properly thanked your man, every day, for his sacrifice?

One geared more towards the ladies, and lots of value for the men This is supposed to be a quick hitter that just keeps dragging out the more I play with it. Riffing on a quick Patrice O'Neal throw away line that goes along with HoustonSubGirl's tweets, and parrots a lot of things already written …

Thoughts on Dating Single Mom’s

I wrote this earlier today for a men's group I am part of, a good looking guy in his 20's was asking for feedback in the group about dating an older co-worker who outearned him and is a single mom. The Holy Trinity of "oh hell no". So I thought I'd blog a bit more …

Are you looking for just a hook up, or an LTR?

So I was asked the other day - "Are you looking for just a hook up or a long term relationship?"Thought it was a great question, one I've been asked a bunch over the years. So I logged some time with a response, and came up with this:Huh, interesting question. Lots of real estate between …

Clarifying roles for My girl, slave or sub?

As a guy who enjoys "the lifestyle" I grabbed this online somewhere awhile back to help me make heads and tails of the differences, to help me know what I want from my girl, to be sure I'm seeing the actions line up with the commitments she makes to me So what is the difference …

Taking the L

Another one I wrote a long while back, prob Nov of 2019, that I've had in the hopper for awhile but have been reticent to post it, since the issues are in the rearview mirror, and it's kinda personal. So not very timely, yet with some recent updates, but I'll put myself out there with …

The Beige Philip Principles

This used to be readily available online at the illimitablemen.com website but the link I had is no good, so h/t to IM for the original content that I'm republishing here. Find IM on Twitter for a great follow, and the website is chock full of goodness Find Dante Nero and the crew at the …

Dreams…

Pulled from the vault, this one is from a tumultuous time in my life back in April of 2014, but the dream is still very vivid today My dream tonight lands me in a foreign country somewhere unfamiliar/unknown to me, my first memories are that I'm on a bed in someones house or apartment in …